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support…

02 Tuesday Apr 2013

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colleagues, support, wonderful workplace

was talking with a woman who is coming up to the anniversary of her husband’s death… her colleagues have not been at all understanding or supportive of what she has gone through this past year…

made me realize how blessed I am to have such a wonderful work place… my colleagues have been there for me from the very beginning of this leg of my journey… I think about the visits by small groups of them during those first days, and how they brought all my favourite foods to try to temp my appetite… how they offered to do anything that would make our lives easier… how they welcomed me back into the fold with open arms when I returned to work…

and how they have been there for me every day as this year has unfolded… how they wore purple on the anniversary to let me know they were all thinking of our family on that fateful day…

wow… I wish that everyone worked in such a supportive environment…

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the garden…

01 Monday Apr 2013

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birds singing, enjoy the sounds, focal point, garden, hot tub, new pond designs

spent a lovely half hour in the hot tub this morning while the birds were singing in the sunshine… I love it when it is warm enough that the jets don’t run and I can enjoy the sounds…

then I did absolutely nothing for a good part of the day…  it was absolutely wonderful…

later I met with Byron, who is a landscaper and is going to redo the big pond in the garden… I am looking forward to seeing some designs in the next few weeks and hopefully the work will happen mid-June…

this is very exciting as last summer I thought I had a company to come and redo it but they never showed up…

the before shot...

the before shot…

George and I have designed and built (well mostly he did the work) our entire garden…  this particular pond is the focal point of the garden…  it has been there for at least fifteen years but for the last few the main portion has been leaking and we haven’t been able to fix it…

checking out the fish with the boys...

checking out the fish with the boys…

George always went on about how they were my ponds, but he spent a lot of time making sure the pumps were working, the plants were growing and that the fish were doing well… he enjoyed them just as much as me… he built a lovely deck that is sculpted to match the edge of the pond and this is my favourite spot to sit and relax and contemplate life…

looking forward to sitting back there soon… if the snow ever melts, lol…

Easter…

31 Sunday Mar 2013

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Easter, Easter dinner, four boys, lovely dinner, preparing

was a bit odd today…

spent a good portion of the day getting ready for dinner with the kids and our young friends… I do enjoy preparing the space and food and it was great to use the new table…

it was the first time in over thirty years that the Easter Bunny didn’t stop by… I had got some cute puppets for the boys from the Zoo store, but the Bunny never came by to hide any treats around the house…

Easter puppets for the boys...

Easter puppets for the boys…

we had a lovely dinner which everyone enjoyed and all the boys ate very well, which doesn’t happen that often… certainly not at the same meal…

Easter dinner with family and friends...

Easter dinner with family and friends…

we all cleaned up and the house is all tidy again…

after some wonderful conversations, everyone headed off, and I had a rest… four boys between the ages of two and seven can wear a person out, lol…

I am looking forward to resting up tomorrow…

 

 

putting things together…

30 Saturday Mar 2013

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Easter dinner, no leftover pieces, putting things together

bought a new dining room table from Ikea today… it was on special (not a sale, my daughter tells me)… it is replacing one we purchased from SuperValu (which tells you how long ago it was) a number of years ago…  that table is still good, but the top is badly scratched and marked up… it will go downstairs for crafts and games… we could put ten people at it but I think we can actually fit a few more at this new one…

things from Ikea come in many, many pieces and have to be put together… my son-in-law came by after work to help me… well, mostly he did the work and I stood there to provide support and pass tools or bits and pieces…

panorama of new Ikea table...

panorama of new Ikea table…

we talked about how George liked to put things together and when the two of them worked on something, it always went swimmingly…  sometimes when I would help him, it wouldn’t go so great…  why is it that often one’s partner just can’t do the correct thing when trying to work on a project together…

another view...

another view…

the exciting thing was that when we were finished we didn’t have any leftover pieces…

last Easter fun in the hot tub...

last Easter fun in the hot tub…

looking forward to having Easter dinner at the table tomorrow with family and some young friends…

last year was the first dinner we had since George died… I think that this year we will be able to celebrate him a bit easier…

the weather…

29 Friday Mar 2013

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hoarfrost, moon, purple, recreational, trees, weather

wasn’t going to do anything today… a day to rest, as tomorrow and Sunday will be busy…

last night before bed I took some nice shots of the moon through some trees behind the house… I had been on my way to bed but it was so beautiful that I had to run and get my tripod and camera and take a few pictures…

moon through the trees...

moon through the trees…

so this morning when I woke up to fog, I took some pictures of that as well…

had a lovely time cleaning out a portion of a closet…  it was great fun to pack stuff up to give away, dump things into the recycling and garbage and find some space…

then I called and booked an appointment for a hair cut and purple and got in right away…  took my camera when I headed out because there was gorgeous hoarfrost on the trees…

the house with the lonely tree...

the house with the lonely tree…

after my hair appointment I drove through Assiniboine Park and took some pictures… later I spent quite a while on the computer uploading the pictures and organizing…

trees covered in hoarfrost...

trees covered in hoarfrost…

driving through the Park reminded me of the fun George and I would often have there… I took pictures of some trees that we often stopped at…

it was a lovely day… very re-creational…

UCC information…

28 Thursday Mar 2013

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life can change, pension information, travel and retirement

Tuesday I received the UCC pension information in the mail… now this may seem like a normal thing, but I have been trying to get this information since about a month after George died…

Kingfisher Spa Massage Hut on the beach...

Kingfisher Spa Massage Hut on the beach…

I have spoken on the phone with a number of people over the past 10 months or so…  every one of them tells me they will request the information and I should get it in six to eight weeks… no, nobody said anything about six or eight months…

my last call was two weeks ago and a lovely man told me I would have the information within two weeks or he would give me a call back to clarify any issues which might cause a delay…

on our way home on Tuesday, my colleague and I were talking about the UCC pension plan and I was laughingly telling her she might never get the information that she was asking for (on behalf of her mother)…

when she dropped me off, I opened the mailbox and there was the envelope, lol… apparently we should have talked about this sooner…

now for my finance guy to review it and then we will decide what the next steps are… this is the last piece of information we have been waiting for as we have received all the other pension information about my options…

we have transferred his pensions over to me and moved money from this place to that… now we will figure out what the possibilities for travel and retirement are…

cruise ship off the beach in Mexico...

cruise ship off the beach in Mexico…

George would have liked to retire and travel… thanks to him, I will have a better opportunity for those things… already I have been to Mexico… and in a couple of months will be cruising to Alaska…

amazing how one’s life can change in a breath…

in the moment…

27 Wednesday Mar 2013

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beloved, blessing, healthy, in the moment, journey, move forward, sandals, Spring

well, this morning I put on a spring coat and wore my sandals to work…  I have worn sandals at work all winter, but wore boots to and from…  but this morning the sun was shining and it was supposed to go to 0 degrees, so I decided it was time to move into spring…

the sandals might have been a little early, but it was wonderful to have them on instead of boots…

a little chilly on the toes this morning...

a little chilly on the toes this morning…

was talking with someone who mentioned George’s memorial service… I don’t remember much about it because I was dealing with a health issue at the time and was focussed on that, and not fully on what was happening around me… maybe that was a blessing…

It did remind me of the fact that last March I was afraid to walk down the street because I might have a problem with my body…  I had spoken with my doctor and we were in agreement that I needed a hysterectomy and I was waiting to get in to see a specialist, but it was a very stress-filled time…

what a difference a year makes, in so many ways… I am healthy and can do most anything these days without any worries…

I miss my beloved but each day I am learning strategies to move forward on this new journey…

smells…

26 Tuesday Mar 2013

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memories, pillows, roses, smells, sweaters

in the shower the other day, I picked up a different shampoo than the one I usually use, because I wanted to smell the scent that the house radiated after George had a shower…  when he got out of the shower the house would always smell of berries…

apparently it wasn’t the shampoo he used, but one that the girls have bought to use when they are over, so it didn’t smell at all right, lol…

when he died I gave his clothes away as I didn’t need them as a reminder of him… it was very hard on Crystal… she took home his sweats and a sweatshirt and that helped her hold him close…  for me, it has been the memories, although not so the other day, lol…

whenever I smell roses, I always think of George…  he always got me roses, for whatever the occasion was, or for no occasion at all…

one of the roses from the bouquet the kids sent this year on our anniversary...

one of the roses from the bouquet the kids sent this year on our anniversary…

a young friend made pillows for each of the kids from his sweaters, and she wrapped them all individually before she made them, and after as well, to be sure they still smelled of him…

pillows for the kids from George's sweaters...

pillows for the kids from George’s sweaters…

she had a difficult time when she was sewing as she came across a sweater that George had worn for a visit to her house…

everyone appreciated the pillows and they were a lovely remembrance of George… when he wasn’t running around without a shirt, he would likely be in one of his sweaters…

what lovely memories I have…

 

 

in the moment…

25 Monday Mar 2013

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live in the moment

had a very interesting discussion regarding the purpose of work tonight… what is work for those of us who are still in the work force… what is work for those who have reached retirement…

what are the special moments in our life that keep us mindful of why we do what we do…

how do we live in the moment…  who can help us with that…

I am looking forward to the snow melting and being able to sit in the garden and enjoy the moment, lol…

enjoying the moment in the garden summer 2012...

enjoying the moment in the garden, Summer 2012… picture by Tavin…

maybe I will come up with some answers to the questions…

busy day…

24 Sunday Mar 2013

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busy day, Dropbox, French games

knew it was going to be busy and it was…

first thing I went out and had a very nice hot tub… there was a bit of a breeze but as I sat there the squirrel came by to find some snacks in the tree…

then did some laundry and learned how to use Dropbox on the computer…  huge snowflakes came down for a short period…

huge snowflakes falling this afternoon...

huge snowflakes falling this afternoon…

then off to get some pants hemmed, all the way to Transcona with Crystal… picked up the boys and went grocery shopping at Safeway… home to make tacos for supper… yay, the boys love tacos…

huge snowflakes falling...

huge snowflakes falling…

after dinner there was some game playing on the iPad and iPhones, some of it in French which was great fun, particularly listening to Gray repeat the words…

English and French word games...

English and French word games…

everyone headed home and I watched TV for a bit, tried to share a folder in Dropbox again, then finished my blog and am heading to bed…

it really was busy… but lots of fun…

 

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