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04 Monday Dec 2017

Posted by sulis303 in family, food, health, life, loss, nature, Photography, technology, Uncategorized

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beloved, big girl pants, birthday, daughters, dinner, FaceTime, family, memories, pattern, Skype, Technology, traditions, widow

today marks six birthdays without my beloved…

it always felt that he lost out because often his birthday and Christmas would be lumped together… particularly for the many years that we really lived hand-to-mouth…

for all of our family birthdays, the birthday person got to choose what we would have for dinner… for the last number of years we have had burgers, French fries, milkshakes and apple pie in his memory… he especially liked the burgers just down the street…

the first few years we Skyped with the out of town kids… one year we had a phone and an iPad so we could get both of them in the room with us…

last year everyone was busy so I had a quiet day remembering so many fun times we had over the years…

our plan was for the city kids to come over tonight but the momma is sick so they stayed home… wasn’t planning to connect with the out-of-towners but was able to FaceTime with my daughter while she had her supper…

I was going to stop and pick up groceries and then a burger, but it was miserable outside so in the end I drove straight home and then ordered a thali platter…

time with my BS buddies and now to bed… life has settled into a pattern and I wear the big girl pants more and more easily…

not sure if that is a good thing or not…

traditions…

03 Thursday Dec 2015

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drinking a cup of tea and thinking about our family traditions over the years… I like to celebrate everything I can, lol… holidays, birthdays, special events in our lives… usually with a family dinner…

  
one tradition has been around birthdays… on your birthday you get to choose what to have for dinner, and the family gathers to celebrate… on the day and always with gifts of course… 

used to involve making the favourite food – roast chicken, mashed potatoes and stuffing; homemade macaroni and cheese; all the way to steak and lobster…  but over the years we have also brought in favourites, or even gone out for dinner… 

  
tomorrow marks the fourth birthday celebration for George since he died…

the tradition for his birthday now involves burgers from a local joint topped off with milkshakes and apple pie… all of which were his favourite foods… the kids who aren’t here join us by skype or FaceTime and we share memories over dinner…

you’d think after nearly four years that it would be easier, but I have felt myself moving into a sad place over the last few days… I make sure to focus on the good times as much as I can, but I still miss him so much and have moments of deep sadness… I embrace them as well as the good ones…

tonight both of my girls have checked in to see what our plan is and to let me know, in their own way, that they know it is hard for me… and I know it is hard for them…

  

traditions…

13 Monday Oct 2014

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big girl pants, elders, memories, thanksgiving, traditions, turnip

for the last few days I’ve been preparing for tonight’s dinner…

this year I made two new things… the first was the dressing that my grandson wanted… apparently there wasn’t enough sausage in it so he didn’t like it…

the second was a turnip puff… a friend wrote about it in a blog and it sounded interesting so I checked it out on Pinterest, liked the look of it, and made some… two of us really liked it, the other not so much… my mom and dad felt that gravy just wasn’t great without turnip water in it, so I’ve cooked turnips as part of our celebration dinners for at least thirty years…

had a good time setting the table… included plates and bowls from our elders…

IMG_8816-1.JPGduring dinner we talked about the various items and where they came from…

had also put one of the candelabras from Crystal and Jeff’s wedding on the table… during dinner we thought of people who were missing – those who’ve moved on from this world and those who are just not close by – and we lit the candles as we thought of them…

before dinner the boys went out to find some leaves to go on the plate with the pumpkin… then they spent some time tree climbing…

IMG_8819.JPGlovely day and great dinner… so much to be thankful for…

wrapping…

15 Sunday Dec 2013

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big girl pants, Big Pond, Christmas music, fresh snow, gathered gifts, George, pizza and Advent chocolate, Rita McNeil, sunrise, traditions, wrapping

had a lovely day… shortly after I got up the sun rose in the back and I got a few pictures…

sunrise...

sunrise…

it continued to shine all day, which was very nice…

popping up over the houses...

popping up over the houses…

gathered up all the gifts that needed to be wrapped… put some Christmas music on the computer and spent a lovely couple of hours preparing the parcels…

quite a stack of parcels ready for ribbons and bows...

quite a stack of parcels ready for ribbons and bows…

also searched out some fabric and put some under the Norfolk pine in the front window… set out some decorations and made the space feel more cozy…

the kids came by and we went out and picked up the ingredients for our Christmas dinner and a few other items I needed… then we had pizza and all of the Advent chocolates from the reindeer since they’d last been here… I’ve been saving them as I’ve been having a Ferraro Roche every day, lol…

the tree outside looks lovely with the fresh snow and lights shining…

tree shining bright with fresh snow for decoration...

tree shining bright with fresh snow for decoration…

during the day I was playing a Rita McNeil album and thinking that we lost her this year… remembering our visit to her tea house in Big Pond and getting to meet her while we were there… I have enjoyed her music for many years and will continue to remember her through all the music…

thinking about George as well, and how much he would have liked the presents for each of the kids this year… have a few bits to pick up that would have been his prep, but will now become mine…

traditions continue, but in a slightly new way…

 

 

 

A new day…

01 Tuesday Jan 2013

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a new day, Christmas Crackers, first footing, good luck, great dinner, moments to savour, traditions

woke up happy this morning… a new year with much to anticipate and wonderful moments to savour…

I spent a lovely hour or so setting the table with all the fancy stuff – silver pheasant salt and pepper shakers that my mother brought to my grandmother when she returned from the war, chargers that Cyndi and Ron searched out just before they left Winnipeg, a flower plate that Ron gave me, beautiful salad dishes that George and I purchased many years ago… it was lovely to choose them and set the table in all its finery… I also added Christmas Crackers as that was a new tradition that Cyndi started, so it was a way to have both she and Ron at the table with us…

table all set...

table all set…

I was thinking back to one of our family’s New Year traditions – first footing… for us, it meant that at midnight on New Year’s Eve my dad, who had dark hair, would jump in the car and drive around to all our aunts and uncles and grandparents’ houses and take them an offering – it always included coal, bread and sometimes oranges and a little drink of something…  I also remember how my dad would have to search out new coal every year because no one ever kept it from year to year…

for many years I was the first footer, as my hair was darker than George’s… and then our kids started to follow the tradition for us, but usually just when they would arrive for dinner on New Year’s Day…  this year Tavin and I made a plan that he would be the one to act as the first footer… we put together a bag with coal (which the girls, George and I gathered along the shore of PEI or the Bay of Fundy and have carefully saved), an orange, and a tiny bottle of Baileys…  he took the bag home with him on Sunday when they were here…  on Monday they stopped by and when we shopped we bought a few buns, which I recommended they add to the bag…

today, before they left home, he reminded his parents’ about the bag and was sure they added the buns to it…

first footing goodies...

first footing goodies…

when they arrived here, he was very proud to be the first one to cross the threshold and bring his grandma good luck for the new year…

when I Googled first footing, it mentioned that it usually happened right after midnight, so I was giggling thinking how we have made a slight variation on the tradition, but I am also thrilled with how special it made Tavin feel…  I also laughed because I didn’t take a picture, even though I had thought I would write about this…

we had a lovely time together and enjoyed a great dinner…

ready to gobble up the wonderful dinner...

ready to gobble up the wonderful dinner…

we are now counting down the days until we leave for Mexico…

Baking…

27 Thursday Dec 2012

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dinner and decorating, grandma, love, memories, mom, ornaments, recipe, sugar cookies, traditions

had a lovely evening out the other night… was invited for dinner and decorating with a young friend whose partner works away… we had a wonderful time decorating the tree and a few other spots in the living room, between snacks, dinner, and drinks… it is always fun to see what others have for decorations and learn traditions they follow…

tree once we were done...

tree once we were done…

it reminded me of all the years where the girls and I would prepare ornaments to hang on the tree, which we would then give to guests as they left our home… we made a wide variety of things over the years, often using cookie cutters and play dough, cinnamon and applesauce, or actual sugar cookies that we would recommend not be eaten… at some point I got kind of lazy and began hanging candy canes, which would then be offered to guests as they left…

I brought a few sugar cookies that I had made and she was commenting on how wonderful they tasted… I can’t even think how many I have made, not so much recently, but over the years while the girls were in school, every occasion meant that sugar cookies would be taken to their classrooms… and later for office functions or gatherings that I was attending…

Crystal was telling me she gets lots of compliments when she makes them as well…

the recipe was my Mom’s or maybe even my Grandma’s, I can’t remember… I’m not sure if it is the recipe, or the love that gets baked into them that makes them taste so delicious…

Hospitality…

20 Thursday Dec 2012

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chocolates, cycle, generosity, hospitality, legacy, moving forward, sounding board, traditions

sitting in the living room in the dark, except for the glowing Christmas trees on the fish tank, I remember my love… he would have either been excited that Christmas was coming, or grumpy because things weren’t all done…

the stained glass, trees, fish and snail...

the stained glass, trees, fish and snail…

going to Morden’s would be on his list, because it wouldn’t be Christmas without Morden’s chocolates as one of my, and the girls, gifts… he would also pick chocolate and nuts up for my work and his work… tomorrow I am going to Morden’s because we need that chocolate, and so I have to put on the big girl pants… I am going with a lovely young woman who makes me smile…

we had a number of celebrations at the office today…  it was one person’s birthday, and another colleague’s last day, as she is leaving to pursue her dreams, so we had a small gathering to say farewell… and at the end of the day, we toasted the wonderful year we have had…  the people I work with come from many backgrounds and are quite amazing… every day I am happy to get up and go into the workplace… how wonderful is that…

yesterday I talked about how I missed having George to bounce things off of… today has been the first full cycle of him not being around for that type of conversation… the day he died I learned something and was waiting to talk with him about it, and today, it came to pass…  hard to believe he has been gone so long… there would have been a number of conversations in the hot tub as I worked through my feelings…

watching people sharing reminds me so much of George, who was generous with me and everyone he came into contact with…  I have watched the girls grow up and follow in his footsteps with their generosity… whether it is with things, time, spirit or hospitality they share with others…

what a legacy…

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