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plans…

06 Thursday Feb 2020

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big girl pants, blessed, cold, family, grandfather clock, memories, moments, parents, plans, ringing, weather, widow

had some plans to head out to get some things done this morning…

but, it was really cold and none of them had to happen, so I decided to stay home…

got dressed, first time in a few days… did some work on the computer and read some of my current book…

also wound the clock which hasn’t been going for a few days…

nice to hear the ringing… reminds me of my mom and dad… this clock came from their apartment…

backing…

30 Wednesday Oct 2019

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picked up a poppy the other day…

dug around and found a backing piece and put the poppy on my jacket… I hate to lose them…

it feels important to wear this sign of respect for our veterans and those who serve now…

I remember my mom and dad, my father-in-law and my son-in-law…

cane…

21 Saturday Sep 2019

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been thinking a lot of our dear friend Margaret…

she was my parents’ neighbour and our good friend since I was about fifteen…

I remember our Chinese food parties on payday Fridays… my beloved and I would go over and mom and dad would come from next door and we would have a delicious dinner…

she enjoyed the girls when they came along and loved spending time with them…

the cane I am using belonged to her…

I can remember saying to her later in her life “you have to put the cane on the ground, not just carry it”…

lovely memories…

fern…

16 Sunday Sep 2018

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today, while I was out I picked up this cute little asparagus fern…

my parents had one in their apartment… I believe it was passed down from one set of grandparents, although I don’t remember which ones… my beloved would have known that little detail;-)… both of them had green thumbs…

was very happy that it fit right into one of the pots in the cupboard…

the fern reminds me of my mom and dad… hope it likes its new spot…

momentous…

05 Wednesday Apr 2017

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been thinking of the momentous moments in one’s life… and how they change everything…

for me those moments have included…

the moment I met my beloved… he walked into my parents’ house with a friend who was staying with us… from that instant my life changed forever…we were inseparable from that day forward…

the moment we got married… and began our life together… although we were young it felt like the perfect step and started a lifetime of great happiness…

the moment we became parents, both times... and how our lives changed again in the most amazing and wonderful way…

the moment we became grandparents… and how life changing that has been as each one of our grandchildren has come into the world and added joy to our lives…

the moment we became the seniors in our family…when we returned from the hospital after his mom (our last parent) died and our children began looking after us…

the moment my beloved left me… 

roaster…

27 Tuesday Dec 2016

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cooked the turkey in my mom and dad’s WearEver roasting pan… 

it must be fifty years old because they had it when I was a kid… looked it up online and noticed that it was called vintage, lol… I can still see my dad lifting it out of the oven with whatever delectable food was inside it… 

that, along with their WearEver knife set, which hangs in the kitchen, and never get used, were treasured family possessions…

haven’t used the pan for a few years as the turkeys have been small and have fit nicely in my enamel roaster…

this turkey was a bit bigger so needed the larger container…

it does produce the most beautiful gravy… a lovely rich brown colour, even though there aren’t lots of bits stuck to the bottom of the pan… also makes the best nuts and bolts…

George had written our last name on the side for when we took it elsewhere doing catering… it was lovely to see his handwriting…

made me think of all the dinners we have cooked during our life together…

wonderful memories…

savour…

05 Thursday Feb 2015

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recently someone was talking about how their parent was driving them crazy… made me think of the wonderful last months I spent with my mother as she was dying of esophageal cancer… it was a special time and I was able to savour each of the good, bad and unforgettable moments…

often when I hear people who are struggling with aging parents I think about the days to come when their loved one will be gone and they will be wishing they could hear the complaining or whatever it is that is making them crazy now, lol…

was chatting with someone who was a bit ticked at their partner… I could only think about how I would be so happy to have George here to get ticked at…

I do remember when he would make me a bit grumpy… part of being a couple I think…

it is exactly two years and eleven months today since my life changed forever…

I miss my beloved…

the moon tonight…

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memories…

29 Thursday Aug 2013

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this morning there were 9 morning glories…

light shining through the beautiful purple morning glory...

light shining through the beautiful purple morning glory…

made me think about my Mom and the amazing days we spent together during her last four months…

she died within a year of my Dad… they were such a couple… always together, always doing things to support the other… I don’t believe I ever heard either of them raise their voice to the other…

my Dad looked after my Mom from the time my brother was born until I was about fifteen or so… when he was born she had a breakdown and spent many years struggling with her health… she would often spend six months of the year in hospital while Dad looked after us and visited her regularly…

she was on large doses of Valium so even when she wasn’t in the hospital she was pretty drugged up… she decided one day that she was getting off the meds and stopped cold-turkey… she improved amazingly after that…

then Dad’s emphysema gave him a very hard time and Mom took over looking after him… we both did, really… when I turned sixteen we bought a car together and I drove Dad to and from work every day until he took an early retirement… as he got weaker and could do less, Mom stepped up her care and before he finally went into hospital, she was doing everything for him…

morning glories blooming close together..

morning glories blooming close together..

true love is an amazing thing to behold… I got to see it with my parents, and experience it with my beloved…

sometimes I am amazed that I have lived so long without George… somehow I thought we would ride off into the sunset together…

Mom and Dad enjoyed our garden and the flowers… although for most of the early years our garden was a playground for little people… they would be part of breakfasts and barbecues on the deck…

they would have enjoyed the morning glories, and the pond… I remember them telling me about my grandpa on my dad’s side who had an amazing garden filled with beautiful roses…

the pond this morning...

the pond this morning…

what wonderful memories…

interesting the stories one remembers…

parents…

15 Thursday Aug 2013

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have spent some time recently thinking about parents…

remembering that time in our lives when we were dealing with kids and parents who needed our support, and how difficult that was…

my dad died in 1988 and my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer about six months later… at the time I wasn’t working and so was able to spend the last four months of her life with her daily in the palliative care ward at Princess Elisabeth Hospital… a very difficult time but also amazing for me… my mom and I had not been close until after my dad’s death and those days we spent were wonderful and we got to really learn about each other…

it reminded me then, and has since then, how important it is to spend the time with your parents or significant family friends… life is so short, and you can’t get that time back…

I wonder how it is for my kids… if they are happy to spend time with me or if it is a chore they feel required to do…

our elders taught us so much… I think of the life lessons George and I learned from ours… his dad and mom, my parents, our dear friend Margaret…

we were blessed with time and the realization that the time with them was so special… even when some of the times were difficult…

enjoy the moments with your elders…

here are my Mom and Dad

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