06 Wednesday Jan 2021
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and then, beautiful, big girl pants, craziness, moments, pray for peace, sadness, sunrise, Washington, widow
such a beautiful start to the day…
and then… craziness in Washington…
praying for peace everywhere…
14 Thursday Feb 2019
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bannock, big girl pants, blubbered, difficult, flowers, heart, La Belle Baguette, loss, missing, sadness, tears, The Stoneware Gallery, widow
what a difficult day… i never know when one of these days will come along…
I’m a bit worn out from recent events so that may have exacerbated the feelings…
anyway, I blubbered throughout the morning at the office… my colleagues were all so kind…
I left after lunch and went to The Stoneware Gallery and found the cutest heart shaped bowls…
picked up bannock and rye bread from La Belle Baguette, which made me happy because they’ve been out of the bannock every time I’d stopped by previously…
filled up the car and got home in time to have a lovely afternoon nap…
looking forward to my first Friday off in many weeks…
20 Tuesday Feb 2018
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beloved, big girl pants, flower therapy, healing, in the moment, joy, music, sadness, smiling, sun dogs, sunflower, widow
this morning the Flower Therapy card that I selected was a sunflower and advised that smiling was healing and made you feel better…
I often bop around in the car as I drive to and from work listening to the radio and dancing along with the music… it makes me smile as I wonder what the people in the other cars are thinking…
as I was heading home my joy ornament was glittering in the sunlight….
brought a smile to my face…
and that was right after driving towards the very bright sun dogs in the sky…
there was lots to smile about today… and it did make me feel better…
as the date of my beloved’s passing looms closer I am trying to give myself the space to be in the moment and let the sadness come and go as needed…
05 Monday Jun 2017
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had a conversation with someone who had recently lost a family member… we were comparing notes…
both of us talked about how slowly the person seemed to go downhill and then how fast the final moments were…
although you think you are prepared, you aren’t…
we talked about how the grief overcomes you at anytime… for sure not when you’d expect it, and the only way forward is to succumb to the feelings and walk through them…
for me, when the moments come, if I can figure out why I’m feeling that way, seems to make it easier to let it wash over me and then I am able to move forward…
sometimes though they just come with no explanation…
it’s been over five years and I can still drop to my knees with the pain on occasion…
for whatever reason I am going through a deep period of sadness… maybe because my beloved did so much of the work in the garden… maybe because it is Spring and a time for new beginnings… not sure, but it is certainly tough…
the garden, which is usually my favourite place to be, is not providing the usual peace and renewal…
one step at a time…
moon rising over the trees last night…
16 Thursday Feb 2017
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beauty, big girl pants, live, love, nature, reminder, rough, sadness, sometimes, struggle, widow
been a rough few days… many reasons… waiting on test results… various changes around me… missing my beloved… mental struggles…
tonight I got a beautiful card in the mail…
great timing… needed a bit of a confidence boost…
and then I walked by the window and saw this…
there is always beauty out there… sometimes I need a brief reminder…
it is so easy to get caught in a downward spiral of sadness…
12 Thursday May 2016
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another early work day… juice had the cutest little umbrella in it…
been thinking of many I know who are dealing with difficult issues right now… health, work, loss… so much sadness…
happy news, today was a colleague’s birthday…
this was the gorgeous rose she received…
seems like flowers everywhere…
tonight I made lettuce wraps with taco meat and grated cheese… I like this type of meal because you have to work to get it eaten… even though it is cold, windy and overcast outside, this was a very nice meal… felt like Spring, at least in the house, lol…
been a full week… glad to have the day off tomorrow…
03 Thursday Mar 2016
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295 York, 65, beloved, big girl pants, death, family, health, March, moments, photographs, sadness, sickness
been thinking a lot about folks who have been dealing with health issues, either sick or injured…
so many people I know have struggled with miserable colds and flu… both of my girls were ill and got sent home on Monday… many friends are just beginning to get over various issues…
the beginning of March is a difficult time for me… can’t help but think back to the loss of my beloved… I’ve been inundated with Facebook memories of things we did in the days just before his death…
have also been working on a project where I’ve been looking through my photographs… am always surprised at how much I have forgotten and the pictures are great reminders of special moments…
came across this picture of a Chihuly glass fixture at 295 York… George and I had dinner there a few times when it was still the Lobby on York…
lost my parents when they were both just over 65… George’s dad died around that age and he didn’t make it to 65… for a while I have been wondering if I will make it to 65… looks like I will, lol…
I am feeling healthy and in better shape than I’ve been for years…
although there is sadness, life is good…
26 Thursday Jun 2014
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appointment, CancerCare, clematis, George, hard moments, missing, sadness
this morning as I was walking down the stairs a wave of sadness swept over me… I was missing George so much, I could hardly stand it…
as I was leaving the house I got some shots of the clematis… we were both so excited that it continued to return year after year and bloom so beautifully…
many blooms on the clematis this morning…
I felt his loss all day… I had an appointment at CancerCare and remembered how he was always there for any appointment I had, just as I was always there for his appointments… Crystal wasn’t able to go with me for this one, and I was a bit nervous as the last two times the examination had been extremely painful… happily, today it was a piece of cake… I was in and out within 20 minutes…
when I got home and was taking off my shoes I looked down and saw this…
Cyndi wore these while she was here and they were just sitting at the front door…
hard to believe that there are such hard moments after 842 days…
great close up… took these before I even got into the car, lol…
16 Tuesday Jul 2013
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missing my beloved, remember good times, sadness, sadness float away, shingling the roof, talking with the kids, the pond, wave of sadness, who to talk to
as I drove home from work tonight a wave of sadness overcame me…
I haven’t been able to shake it… I have been missing my beloved so much this last week or so… don’t know if it is the pond… he always gave me action about the ponds but he loved to look after them, and the fish, even as he complained…
was talking with someone about having the roof reshingled and thinking how he would have known who to talk to and sort out the best people to do the work, and even whether we needed the work done…
even talking with my kids couldn’t lift the sadness…
well, I am going for a short hot tub and then to bed… tomorrow is another day and a great opportunity to remember good times and let the sadness float away…
smiling as I was taking his picture…
14 Thursday Feb 2013
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Baileys, cars, chocolate hearts, cookies, cupid delivery, feeling sorry for myself, lost son, miss him, neighbour, new reality, one step at a time, remembering daddy, roses, sadness, sorrow and healing, The Keg, time passes quickly
my neighbour of over thirty years lost her forty-year old son to cancer a few days ago… I cannot imagine her pain…
I spent a few minutes with her and we talked about the sadness but also the need to go on, one step at a time… a friend of hers was there and my neighbour mentioned that my husband had died a few months ago… it is nearly a year but time passes so quickly… she will be fine, like me, moving forward and doing what needs to be done…
for me there is no choice… I work at seeing the good in things around me, remembering the best and looking forward with hope…
I ordered roses for my girls and did very well until I was asked what the card should say… then the tears began to flow and I could hardly speak… both of the florists I spoke with were very compassionate, patiently waiting until I could speak again… the cards said – remembering daddy…
no matter what else was going on he always made sure that each of them got a rose for Valentine’s Day to be sure they knew how much he loved them… what a romantic he was… I miss him so…
had quite the up and down day today… woke up very early thinking about George and wishing he was here… at work, I delivered flowers to one of my colleagues and was feeling a bit sorry for myself because I wouldn’t be getting any…
then I was called out of a meeting to deal with a situation at the front… it was two cupids singing and playing a cute song as they delivered a heart-shaped cinnamon bun and chocolate heart…
In the heart of winter you may feel like an icicle – but your heart can be warmed with this message by bicycle – let there be no questions or shades of grey – your kids wish you a happy valentine’s day – so ignore the quality of singer or song – just know that with us, you can do no wrong.
treats…
it was our soup day so I had a lovely lunch with some of my colleagues – Thai Coconut Curry soup and sugar cookies – some very pretty ones that Crystal dropped off, and some rather strange looking ones that I made last night…
after work Crystal and I went to look at cars and consider whether I should upgrade… then we went to The Keg, where we met up with Jeff and had a lovely dinner… steak and lobster for me, yum…
finally I got dropped off at home and charged into the house on a mission to get the garbage and recycling out for tomorrow’s pick-up…
on the floor I spot…
what the…
and followed along…
up the table…
where I discovered a cute card from all the kids…
… your “Lots of Love Club”!
as I sit here writing, and drinking a small glass of Baileys, I can look over and see the chocolate hearts, which I have not yet moved, lol… pretty great kids…
what a day… filled with tears and laughter as I move forward in this new reality…
